Hello! Happy Monday!
I got engaged last weekend! It is a monumentally happy moment in my life. I’m incredibly grateful for my partner (err .. fiancé!) and our love. Getting into a healthy relationship was difficult for me, but that’s a story for another time!
We spent (courtesy of his fantastic planning) 3 full days hiking from beaches to mountains and back again, staying at bed and breakfasts along the way. The whole experience happened in our backyard on Mt. Tam, which means we can repeat the experience annually. Truly, life does not get much better than this for me. So … how is it all best savored?
I’m happy to introduce you to our tool of the week: Favorite Frames. This tool is from Mama Gena’s wide world of pleasure coaching, and it helps us delight in and digest our experiences, thereby extending their pleasure.
Here’s how it works:
- Think of a recent delicious experience you had. It could be a gorgeous dinner, a yummy conversation with friends or family, a concert, an art exhibition, etc.
- Take a moment to jot down your ‘favorite frames.’ For example, ‘I frame arriving as the sun was setting to my favorite B&B, I frame that I was a hot, sweaty mess when he got down on one knee, I frame reading in bed together every morning, I frame the pure joy and glee we experienced taking this step in our relationship.’
- You can do this solo as a daily practice at the end of your day or with your family or friends after a vacation. It’s a great way to craft a memory book following an adventure!
Why does all of this matter? Because our lives pass quickly, and sometimes, we miss the chance to suck the marrow out of each experience. We’re onto the next thing before we know it. Framing focuses your mind on really digesting every ounce of pleasure available to you. It feels wonderful to do this, and it extends the pleasure of the experience itself.
Take 60 seconds and try it if it speaks to you. You are the chief scientist of your life, and you get to explore what lights you up continuously. Doing is better than just reading – take it from me, you don’t want to spend a decade just reading about ideas vs applying them.
Also, please tell me what you want below!!! And explore upcoming events.
Lots of L-O-V-E!
Kit
New Offers
I’m dreaming up two new offers: a virtual Time Away group experience and an IRL group experience here in the Bay Area. Do you want to help me create the EXACT experience you want to have? (Your wish is my command style.) Please take 5 minutes to tell me what’s on your wishlist. Santa season is upon us, and the Time Away elves want to serve you!
Upcoming Events
Midlife Conference in Maine. I’m speaking on two topics – short notice, but hop on over if you can! The conference organizers are unique, and this topic is very important.
- Self-Compassion in the Age of Social Media—Amidst social media’s constant noise and the attention economy’s urgency, how can we let self-compassion be our buffer as we come home to ourselves?
- Igniting Your Turn-On—We’ll explore mental, energetic, and sensual turn-ons through interactive exercises like sharing “Trinities,” where each person shares one brag, one gratitude, and one desire to refocus on what they can be proud of and grateful for. You’ll leave feeling inspired, energized, and ready to embrace your inner ooh la la.
