One of the most vexing parts of trying to build a life you love is creating the vision for it – and actually sticking to it.
As I was dutifully reviewing my own vision this morning, a swirl of scary thoughts came up:
- I can’t do it
- This is too much
- This is lame
- Shouldn’t I feel more excited?
One option for dealing with this kind of self-talk is to just override it and move on. Or, to move ahead, but feel like I have my tail between my legs while I do it.
A more powerful route (and the one I chose this morning, yay!) is to write down all the beliefs that are bringing me down and disprove them. One by one.
For example, “I can’t do this” becomes “I can do this,” and I remind myself why:
- I’ve repeatedly and successfully done new things that felt hard but were exhilarating afterwards.
- If I break the task down into its smallest parts, it becomes manageable.
- When I separate my identity from the task, it becomes easier i.e., I’m not putting myself out there, I’m just doing the job I’ve created for myself.
After reworking just one of the beliefs, I felt better. My energy and confidence returned, and I made a sensible game plan for the day. If I were still feeling off, however, I’d work through the next limiting belief. And the next.
Love,
Kit
